Surrendering to Pleasure and PULSE Orgasmic Energy
This is the final in a 3-part series on allowing, receiving, and surrendering to pleasure as a way to enhance sex. Part one was about learning to PAUSE and allowing yourself to listen to the wisdom of your body. Part two talked about the meaning of PONDER, and how to receive information from your body to create healthy and healing sexuality. Part three will help you see surrendering as a way to experience deep pleasure, and PULSE that into your sex life and beyond. Learning how to PULSE positive energy creates a healing energy for you, your relationships, and the entire world.
Looking at the definition of surrender, Webster Dictionary shows:
a : to yield to the power, control, or possession of another upon compulsion or demand
b : to give up completely or agree to forgo especially in favor of another
c : to give (oneself) up into the power of another especially as a prisoner
d : to give (oneself) over to something (as an influence)
It doesn't sound like something that you would ever want to do. Let me offer a different way to look at surrender.
a : to allow and receive whatever the situation brings
b : to give up the mind chatter and feel your body
c : to give (oneself) up to the power of pleasure
d : to consciously and deliberately give up control in the moment
Both sets of definitions here speak to giving up control. You have an internal locus of control, in addition to events happening externally that you want to control. True surrender means letting go of both. I write this statement with ease, and yet it takes a consistent and focused awareness to experience true surrender. Why bother? Because the resulting pleasure is an other worldly positive energy that has healing power.
Most people get very nervous at the thought of relinquishing control, and honestly those same people resist experiencing pleasure too. Hence, why it can be challenging to consider surrender, especially with sex. Feeling safe physically, emotionally, and spiritually is essential.
A few body signals that let you know you feel safe are:
* mind is calm
* solar plexus is relaxed (3rd chakra)
* feet are firmly planted on the earth
The surrender to deep body awareness, and letting go of external and internal control sets you up to allow, receive and surrender to a deeply fulfilling and healing sexual experience. Once you experience this energy, you can become aware that it lives within you. Then, you have the ability to PULSE it everywhere you go.
It is simple, AND not always easy. It takes focused awareness and consciousness.
Imagine how the world would be, with more orgasmic energy in it? Understanding how dramatically your world would improve for the good of all, is what will help you stay focused on the work.
Call to action
PAUSE for 30 seconds every morning when you arise. Close your eyes, breathe into your belly, and notice the sights, sounds, and smells around you. Smile. PONDER throughout the day "How can I receive the beauty and sensuality of this day?" Take 5 minutes to write down at least 3 ways to incorporate pleasure into your day.
Put some words around the energy you are experiencing. Vision in your mind what it looks like when you are feeling it. What does it look like at work? with your family? with your friends? Imagine yourself PULSing that juicy energy throughout your day.
Notice your inner feelings, and take 5 minutes at day's end to write it down.
Commit to one month of deep awareness, and you will never look back.
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About the Author
Betty Louise has been teaching and interviewing progressive thinking experts, artists and innovators from all over the world for over 20 years. She has written about her experiences in a book titled “Healing with Pleasure Medicine: Unearthing the Beautiful, Sensual, and Sexual You.”
She is an expert coach who works with receptive and broad minded people. She helps them rediscover their inner beauty, sensuality, and sexuality so that they fall in love with themselves every time they look in the mirror. Her 30 minute skype or phone sessions are powerful and insightful prompting her clients to say things like "What a wonderful addition to my life...you are."