Allowing Pleasure is Foreplay to Sex
by Betty Louise
This is the first in a 3-part series on allowing, receiving, and surrendering to pleasure as a means to enhance sex. Part one is about learning to PAUSE and allowing yourself to listen to the wisdom of your body. A wise body knows how to surrender to the healing power of pleasure.
The process is simple, yet it requires your focus and attention. Give it your attention, and new body awareness will carry you into an orgasmic sexual life.
Why bother, you say? Pleasurable sex, which is sex that relaxes and fulfills you from the inside out, is excellent for your health. It strengthens the immune system, cardiovascular system, and is a mood altering experience that can literally get rid of a migraine headache. Sex is a natural form of healing that often gets overlooked for its medicinal value, even though there have been documented times in history when orgasm was used to treat female hysteria. During the Victorian era, orgasmic relief was performed with many women. Imagine those doctor/patient relationships! These orgasmic office visits led to the invention of the vibrator, the 4th use of electricity. It wasn't until the American Medical Association (AMA) came along in the early 1900s, that the talk of treating women through orgasm was quelled. What would you do if your doctor prescribed sex 3-4 times a week with yourself or a loved one? Sex is one of the most natural healing tools within us.
My own personal experience with sexual healing found that I could greatly reduce the level of pain I experience from Rheumatoid Arthritis with orgasmic sex. Yes, it has to be orgasmic, so no faking is allowed. I know from my work and research that it is not always easy for women to achieve a fulfilling orgasm so I am compelled to teach and write about allowing pleasure. It is the first step, and it doesn't matter your age, health of your vagina, or mental state. This is about allowing more pleasure in your life. My clients report that using the process I will outline for you, they have more clarity about what choices will make them happy. And with more clarity comes less stress, less pain (of any kind), and less anxiety.
In this crazy and dysfunctional world, there is a go-go-go kind of energy all around us. Busy-ness is glorified, as we see those who work long hours and are involved in numerous activities get the most attention and are considered successful. You don't often hear, "Wow, look at how balanced her life is!"
To change the trajectory of busy, we must learn to PAUSE and allow our senses to awaken. It is so simple, that many think it won't work. If you cultivate a practice of pleasure through your senses, it will become foreplay for a sensual life and your sex life will become hot and juicy.
The 2nd article in the series will focus on PONDERing your wisdom, and how to receive pleasure. While the 3rd will show you how to channel all that yummy energy to activities inside and outside the bedroom.
Call to Action
PAUSE for 30 seconds every morning when you arise. Close your eyes, breathe into your belly, and notice the sights, sounds, and smells around you. Smile. I recommend doing that 3 times a day for a total of 1-1/2 minutes of your time.
Do you have 90 seconds a day to allow more pleasure in your life, and create an orgasmic sex life?
Comments from Art of Unity Founder, Bill Farr
I am a firm believer in the medicinal benefits of sex for the mind, body, and spirit. Many people tell me they are unable to meditate because they can't escape their thoughts. Most, if not all people have experienced using sex to escape their stress and thoughts so I believe it to be a gateway to showing people the possibilities for their mind to reach this state within their meditation; since connective loving sex can be a wonderful meditation.
I would highly recommend further exploring the many types of sexual therapy such as Betty Louise's (www.coachbettylive.com) as well as orgasmic mediation and tantra.
- Bill Farr
About the Author
Betty Louise has been teaching and interviewing progressive thinking experts, artists and innovators from all over the world for over 20 years. She has written about her experiences in a book titled “Healing with Pleasure Medicine: Unearthing the Beautiful, Sensual, and Sexual You.”
She is an expert coach who works with receptive and broad minded people. She helps them rediscover their inner beauty, sensuality, and sexuality so that they fall in love with themselves every time they look in the mirror. Her 30 minute skype or phone sessions are powerful and insightful prompting her clients to say things like "What a wonderful addition to my life...you are."